Ancient philosophers and scientists agree: friends are the KEY to happiness. Studies show that if you have five or more friends with whom you can discuss an important matter, you’re far more likely to describe yourself as “very happy.”
1. Introduce Yourself…
It can be as simple as sticking out your hand and saying "Hi, my name is...". Once you introduce yourself, the other person will typically do the same. Then all you have to do is remember their name.
2. Make an effort to smile.
Big surprise, studies show that the more you smile during a conversation has a direct effect on how friendly you’re perceived to be.
3. Give a Compliment
Studies show that because of a phenomenon called spontaneous trait transference, people unintentionally transfer to you the traits you ascribe to other people. So if you tell Jean that Pat is arrogant, unconsciously Jean associates that quality with you. On the other hand, if you say that Pat is hilarious, you’ll be linked to that quality.
Letting others know that you think they're funny makes them feel good and shows them you're interested in what they think. It also shows that you have a good sense of humor, which is one of the top things teens look for in a companion, whether it's a best friend or a boyfriend or girlfriend.
5. Show up…
Woody Allen said that “eighty percent of success is showing up.” This also applies to friendship. The mere exposure effect describes how repeated exposure to someone or something increases its appeal. You’re much more likely to become friends with someone if you see him or her often. So whenever you have the chance to see other people, take it. Go to the party. Stop by and visit someone. Make the effort.
6. Ask them out to hang out.
You can chat your heart out but it won't get you a friend if you don't open up the opportunity for another conversation or meeting. A good way to extend yourself is to say: "Hey, you want to hang out sometime, let me give you my number/e-mail address." Seize the day!
7. Patience is a virtue
You won't find a new best friend in one afternoon. It can take a while to get to know people, so just relax. Take friendship slowly, and don't try to force intimacy to grow quickly; the move from acquaintance to friend can take a while. It's understandable to want more of a good thing, but most things worth having are worth waiting for.