4 Steps to Making Friends

Making Friends Step 1 - Talk to lots of People

The more people you talk to the more chances of finding someone with whom you will click.  Make small talk with the people you meet.  If you’re shy or out of practice this can seem extremely difficult.

Break the ice with questions like “Where do you live?” or “What do you do?”  Give compliments like… “I like your shoes or top.  Where is it from?”  This is a conversation starter and everyone likes to be complimented.

Making Friends Step 2 - Join a Group: Like a book club, an exercise club, dance or art

This is a great way to meet new people.  

Joining something like this not only means you’ll automatically have something to talk about, but also being around people in an organized set up allows you to see these people regularly and therefore you will have a much better chance to get to know them.

Making Friends Step 3 - Spend Time Together

After you’ve identified some potential friends.  It’s time to make a small gesture! Invite them out, don’t be shy.  You’ll need to take this small risk to let them know you'd like to be friends.

Activities such as shopping, going to the movies and discussing the film afterwards, or reading the same books are helpful at this stage of a friendship because they allow you to discover each others attitudes and find some common ground.  

Some friendships never move beyond this casual level. Others will grow, flourish, and become solid lifelong friendships.

Making Friends Step 4 – Make Friends your Priority

If having friends is important to you,  you must make time for it in your busy schedule.  Make friendship a priority in your life.  

Commit to making two phone calls a week or extending one invitation a week.

Be consistent and don’t give up.  Remember to expect some rejection.  Not everyone has room in their lives for new friends.  That’s not your fault.  

At the same time be willing to take some risks in your quest for new friends.  Tell yourself you’ve got nothing to lose and the lifelong benefits of friendship to gain!

Info taken from video at videojug