In other words...
If you are arrested or do something illegal, you could be sent home immediately.
- No alcohol
- No smoking*
- No drugs
- No hanging out with anyone involved with drugs.
- No violence
- No shoplifting
- No getting a job
- No pornography
*unless you are 18 or over AND wrote on your application that you smoke.
The school decides which grade you’ll be put into, and whether you’ll be allowed
to graduate, get a diploma, or play sports. You must respect their decisions.
If you bother the school about these matters, you will be put on probation.
If you’re expelled or dismissed from school, you’ll have to go home immediately.
You need to maintain a “C” averages, with no “F” grades.
If SHARE! decides that you need a tutor, your parents will have to pay for it.
No driving anything with a motor
Follow all host family rules.
Make sure your host parents always know where you are.
No borrowing money from your host family, or lending money to your host family.
You must receive at least $300 a month from home for spending money.
Follow the host family’s computer rules.
Do not talk about your current or past host family to anyone but your Exchange Program
No visits from family or friends during the first 6 months of the program.
No visits from anyone under 25, ever.
You must have someone 25 or older with you for any travel.
Send your DS-2019 form to the National Office for any overseas travel.
No getting married.
No religious conversion.
No sexual activity
If you are pregnant or have caused a pregnancy, you will be sent home immediately.
No tattoos or piercings
If you leave the SHARE! program without permission, you will be reported to the U.S. Government for deportation.
If you change host families, it will be at your and your biological parents’ expense.
You must return home within 7-10 days of the end of the program.
Pay all your debts and bills before you leave.
If you break the Standards of Conduct, you may be put on probation.
If you are on probation and break any rules, you may be repatriated (sent home).
Standards of Conduct
SECTION I — LOCAL, STATE, AND FEDERAL LAWS
If a student is arrested or if it is reliably confirmed that the student has acted
illegally, program sponsorship will be revoked, resulting in early return as soon
as legally possible to the home country at the expense of the student’s parents
with no refund of program fees. The student is bound by all local, state,
and federal laws, whether included in the Standards of Conduct or not.
- Drinking of alcoholic beverages, including beer and wine, is illegal in all states
for persons under 21 years of age. Students are not permitted to purchase or drink
alcoholic beverages while under ERDT/SHARE! sponsorship. The student must not associate
with any persons involved in illegal alcohol purchase or use.
- Purchasing and using tobacco products are illegal in most states for persons under
18 years of age. If a student is found to be a smoker after having stated otherwise,
he/she may be placed on probation and asked to quit. If the student is a smoker,
he/she must comply with all smoking restrictions imposed by the host family, host
school, any public or private venue, and state laws.
- The student must not buy, sell, possess, or use illegal or controlled drugs, unless
prescribed for him/her by a licensed physician. If the student is taking prescription
drugs, the name, dosage, and length of time of use for each drug must be listed
on the ERDT/SHARE! Medical History and Information form. The student must not associate
with any persons involved in illegal drug use or drug trafficking.
- Students must not commit or take part in any act of violence against another person
or property. Such acts will lead to probation and/or repatriation with no refund.
- Shoplifting and theft are illegal and may lead to criminal charges and immediate
repatriation with no refund.
- It is illegal for the student to take regular employment while in the U.S. Occasional
odd jobs, such as yard work or baby-sitting, are permitted if they do not interfere
with schoolwork and if the student has host family permission.
It is illegal for minors to access pornography on the Internet or download pornography
from the Internet to the host family’s computer. Students who violate this rule
will be placed on probation and may be asked by the host family to leave the home
SECTION II — HIGH SCHOOL INTERSCHOLASTIC SPORTS PARTICIPATION
All decisions regarding grade placement, credit, graduation, diplomas, sports eligibility,
and sports participation are at the discretion of individual high schools and/or
- GRADUATION AND/OR GRADE PLACEMENT IS NOT GUARANTEED. The student must accept and
respect all decisions made by the school or school district regarding grade placement,
credit, graduation, diplomas, sports eligibility, sports participation, and any
other decision that the school has legal authority to make. A student who continues
to lobby the school personnel and/or school district after a final decision has
been made will be placed on probation.
- A student who is dismissed or expelled from school for any reason will be terminated
immediately from the SHARE! program with no refund and returned home as soon as
arrangements can be made.
- SPORTS PARTICIPATION IS NOT GUARANTEED. If a student has graduated from high school
in the home country or has completed a certain number of years of high school, he/she
may be deemed ineligible for interscholastic sports.
- A student who wishes to participate in school sports may be subject to a school-imposed
random drug test for athletes. Participation on the sports team, in this case,
would be dependent on both the student’s willingness to take the test and the results
of the test.
- The student must obey all school rules, attend classes regularly, and be responsible
for assuming a full course load, for making a strong effort in all classes, and
for maintaining at least a “C” average, with no “F” (failing) grades. Students who
receive failing grades will be placed on probation. All tutoring costs are to be
borne by the student.
- The student is responsible for all school fees, including but not limited to: registration,
books, lockers, laboratories, gym/physical education, yearbook, class ring, letter
jacket, student activities, etc.
The student may choose one of the following options for lunch on school days: a)
bring a sack lunch from home containing, for example, a sandwich and an apple; or,
at the student’s expense, b) buy a lunch at school or lunch off campus, if the school
SECTION III — DRIVER’S EDUCATION AND DRIVING A MOTORIZED VEHICLE
The student may not drive any car, motorcycle, or any other motorized vehicle while
under the sponsorship of ERDT/SHARE! (This includes automobiles, mopeds, motorized
scooters, motorcycles, dirt bikes, snowmobiles, jet skis, All Terrain Vehicles,
motorboats, aircraft, riding mowers, golf carts and all motorized recreational vehicles.)
- Participation in high school driver’s education courses or the acquisition of a
driver’s license through a private driving school while on the SHARE! program is
- The student is not allowed to rent or purchase a vehicle while on the SHARE! program
or at the end of the SHARE! program.
SECTION IV — STUDENT PLACEMENT, HOST FAMILY PARTICIPATION, AND HOST FAMILY RULES
All U.S. host families are volunteers and receive no compensation for hosting a
foreign exchange student. Program fees are used for administrative and supervisory
- No guarantee is made with regard to placement in a particular region of the U.S.
or in a town of a certain size, or with a particular kind of host family (for example,
with a teenager in the home).
- Both a private bedroom and a private bathroom are not guaranteed. Only a separate
bed is guaranteed.
- The student must comply with all reasonable rules of the host family, including
but not limited to curfews, household chores, visitors, phone calls, etc. If a student
violates host family rules, a meeting will be set up with the student, host family,
and local coordinator to discuss the situation and come to an agreement about necessary
changes in behavior and/or expectations. If the student violates the agreement,
he/she will be placed on probation.
- The student must keep the host family informed at all times of his/her whereabouts,
with whom he/she is associating, and times of departure from and return to the host
- The student must not lend money to or borrow money from the host family or from
any other source. Natural parents must supply the student with an adequate amount
of spending money at all times, a minimum of $300 per month.
- Student computer use (desktop or laptop) must be in a common area of the host family’s
home (never in a bedroom or behind closed doors) and students must adhere to the
host family’s rules and restrictions regarding computer and Internet use.
Misuse of the host family’s computer or the Internet is grounds for probation.
- The student must speak with the local SHARE! Exchange Program Coordinator about
any problems she/he is having and to refrain from speaking of her/his host family’s
private affairs to community members and friends.
SECTION V — BIOLOGICAL FAMILY VISITS AND STUDENT TRAVEL DURING SHARE! PROGRAM
- VISITS FROM FAMILY OR FRIENDS ARE NOT PERMITTED DURING THE FIRST SIX MONTHS OF THE
- Parents and friends may not disturb the host family life and their son or daughters
adjustment to the program. All visits are discouraged until the very end of the
program. Any visit during the program must have the prior permission of the SHARE!
- At no time is it permitted for a minor, 25 years or younger, to visit the student
while on the SHARE! program, or at the end of the SHARE! program.
- The student is not permitted to hitchhike alone or with companions or to travel
outside the local area by him/herself or with peers.
- Overnight travel with the host family, another family, an approved responsible adult
(at least 25 years of age), approved groups (e.g. church, school, etc.) is permitted
if prior consent is given by the host family and Exchange Program Coordinator. The
host family and Exchange Program Coordinator must be informed of all such trips
and have a phone contact to reach the student in an emergency.
- If a student travels outside the U.S., he/she must always carry his/her passport
and all visa documents to gain re-entry to the U.S. In addition, the student
should check with the consulate of the destination countries to determine visa and
- In the event a student does travel outside the U.S. during the program term, he/she
must send his/her DS 2019 form to the SHARE! National Office in Santa Monica prior
to departure and with enough time to receive it back from the SHARE! Office prior
to departing the U.S. Express postage fees will apply. FAILURE TO DO SO WILL RESULT
IN THE DENIAL FOR REENTRY INTO THE U.S.
SECTION VI — LIFE-CHANGING DECISIONS
- Students will not be permitted to make life-changing decisions, including but not
limited to marriage, religious conversion, and other decisions with legal, political,
religious, and/or social ramifications.
- Students must refrain from sexual behavior, contact, and activity. Students found
to be sexually active will be placed on probation. Students found to be pregnant
or responsible for a pregnancy while on the program will be terminated from the
program and returned home as soon as arrangements can be made, with no refund of
- Students will not be permitted to tattoo or pierce any part of their body while
on the program.
SECTION VII— CHANGING HOST FAMILIES, WITHDRAWAL OR TERMINATION FROM PROGRAM
- A student may not leave or withdraw from the program at any time without prior permission
of the SHARE! National Office. If the student leaves the program for any reason,
whether voluntarily or involuntarily, he/she may not return to the program and will
not receive a refund. Any student who withdraws without the permission of the SHARE!
National Office will be reported to SEVIS and will have their visa status terminated
and will be subject to deportation. If there is death or serious illness in the
student’s immediate family, he/she may return home to deal with the crisis and will
be accepted to come back to the U.S. to complete the program.
- If the student is transferred from one host family to another, any transportation
costs incurred are the responsibility of, and shall be borne by, the student and
SECTION VII — RETURNING HOME AT THE END OF THE SHARE! PROGRAM
- The student must return to the home country at the end of the program (i.e., 7-10
days after the end of the academic term for which the student was enrolled).
- Unsupervised travel or travel with peers is NOT permitted at the end of the
program. Adult-accompanied and adult-supervised travel may be permitted at the end
of the program only if permission is granted in writing by the biological parents
and the ERDT/SHARE! National Office and if the travel commences within 7-10 days
ater the end of the student’s academic term. A detailed itinerary of travel plans,
including modes of travel as well as addresses and telephone numbers for emergency
contact during the travel period, must also be submitted. Students must also extend
insurance coverage, if necessary.
- If a student leaves a host family with outstanding debts, including but not limited
to medical bills, telephone calls, or damage to the host family’s property, the
student’s biological family will be responsible for payment in addition to a $50.00
AGREEMENT TO ABIDE BY THE ERDT/SHARE! PROGRAM STANDARDS OF CONDUCT
The mission of Educational Resource Development Trust (ERDT) and the SHARE! High
School Exchange Program is to provide opportunities for people of diverse cultures
to come together to learn about different points of view and ways of life. ERDT/SHARE!
expects the highest standards of behavior from program participants at all times.
The Standards of Conduct have been established to facilitate the mission of ERDT/SHARE!.
Violation of these Standards of Conduct will lead to disciplinary action, probation,
and possible repatriation, with no refund of program fees from the SHARE! High School
Exchange Program. Violators of the Standards of Conduct may expect an opportunity
to explain actions to the host family, the SHARE! local coordinator, regional staff,
and/or the SHARE! National Office staff. A decision about discipline and an agreement
for future actions and/or behavior changes will be made at that time.
If violations are serious and warrant further action or the agreed-upon actions
have not been met, the student will be placed on probation. The decision for probation
will be made in conjunction with the SHARE! National Office staff. The student,
host family, school (in cases of academic probation), and the student’s overseas
representative (who will inform the natural parents) will be notified of the terms
of the probationary status.
Further violations will lead to the decision to terminate the student from the program
and to repatriate the student at the parents' expense and with no refund of
program fees. The SHARE! National Office staff will notify the Overseas Representative,
who will inform the natural parents that the student is being terminated from the
program and is being repatriated.
If the decision is made by the SHARE! National Office staff to terminate the student
from the program, the student's visa status will be revoked, and ERDT/SHARE!
will notify the proper U.S. Government authorities of termination of sponsorship.